When I was pregnant, I was glowing. I felt great, I read numerous books about pregnancy and childbirth, I exercised and I ate well. Everything was going according to plan. I couldn’t wait to meet my baby girl.The nature gave us the whole 9 months to embrace the pregnancy, to think about future and to prepare for the motherhood. Those 9 months I spent imagining and fantasizing about life after birth. I pictured myself doing entire parenting job without interrupting my regular daily routines. I imagined nice and quiet stroller rides, when baby would sleep in her stroller while I sit on a bench and read a book, or while I sip coffee in my favorite café. I thought that I would continue being busy, meeting with my friends, do my regular exercise routines while baby would play alone with her toys.Boy was I wrong. I never once thought that things would be different and not as I imagined. Here are a whole bunch of things no one told me about motherhood and neither was I prepared for them.
Not all babies latch on immediately. Despite my birth plan to start breastfeeding immediately after birth, the latching didn’t go well at first. The baby didn’t know how to properly latch on; neither did I know how to do it. It took many efforts to make it happen, thanks to a very experienced nurse.
Sleeping like a baby? Whose baby are you talking about? Good sleep or better way of putting - absence of decent naps was a big shocker and surprise to me. I’ve never heard of 30 minute naps, I never thought that I would experience them in full bloom.
Having your breakfast at lunch is a regular thing. Baby woke up and you’ll probably dream of having a nice cup of coffee as well as with a toast and whatever else you like to eat. But first: change baby’s diaper, get her dressed, feed her, then change again, rock or swing for a nap, then change baby again. Finally, here’s my coffee. Oh, look it’s already lunch time!
Getting back in shape would not be a breeze. Unlike modern celebrities who get back in shape in no time, it took me much longer than I thought. Yes, I breastfed and No, this is not the only remedy for losing post-pregnancy weight.
There are babies who absolutely hate strollers and car seats. My perfect picture of a baby who sleeps in a stroller or a car seat quickly faded away when I realized that my daughter hates being there. If somehow I managed to put her for a nap and take a stroll outside, after dreaded 30 min, she would wake up and scream at the top of her lungs. There was no place for peaceful strolls, enjoying the view or sitting on a bench. That was a marathon to run back home as soon as baby wakes up.
Forget about reading product labels and long grocery shopping. I love shopping. Who doesn’t? Whether it’s hunting for new clothing or grocery shopping, I like doing it with enjoyment. But super active babies don’t usually give you extra time for thinking or reading labels. Grocery list is your friend. The quicker you manage to buy goods, the more likely you’ll keep your sanity.
Nights out…remind me, what is that? If regular date nights and girls’ nights out were your usual weekly routine, there are high chances you’ll have to postpone those events for quite some time.With such thing as separation anxiety, your little one will be attached to you days and nights. Want to go out? You’ll probably need to go with your baby. But forget about wine tastings and long social gatherings. You’ll probably have to do everything pretty quickly.
You may lose some of your friends. Childless friends are out, mommy friends are in. With your new lifestyle and duties, not everyone of your friends will find it interesting to listen to you bragging about kids. Be ready to enter a new motherhood club with diapers, poops and sleep talks.
You’ll never enjoy the silence as much as when you have kids. With all the chaos and buzz with the arrival of your baby, you’ll absolutely love when kids are sleeping and your house is nice and quiet. Silence will feel unusual since this is something you’ll rarely experience.
You’ll appreciate uninterrupted shower and bath more than ever before. Oh yes, you’ll do! If you got lucky and got your husband to look after a baby, you’ll receive an ultimate spa treatment – uninterrupted shower/bath treatment. And this won’t happen often. Yes, motherhood is a challenge, sometimes a struggle and in most cases we’re not prepared for such an intense job. But for all of these, you receive a unique and incredible reward, which is pure love. All challenges compared to your reward, simply fade away.
Perhaps you have an angel baby and you really can’t understand how all of this is possible. But there are so many moms who can relate to these things. Does it sound familiar to you? Would you add something to this list? Any thoughts?